Eldest Daughters & Scapegoats: Life as the Black Sheep of the Family

Being the black sheep after divorce means navigating silence, rejection, and longing for connection that never comes. You're not alone in this grief.

Family of origin is our first religion. I pray.

“I’ve been afraid of changing, ’cause I built my life around you.” — Stevie Nicks

I’m the eldest daughter. The one who held it all together.

Except for myself. Until recently.

Everyone else forgot how hard it was.

Except for me.

I remember everything.

Don’t think I want to. Don’t think I don’t crave forgetting. I…